It would be years before I understood this as little more than a base strategy in which a man creates the semblance of a hierarchy within a group of women or girls by making one of them feel “picked”. But I was 14, and my child self thought this was love at first sight.
Read MorePeople frequently ask me: Should we pay for emotional labor? That question is often posed provocatively, as if anything except a negative answer would be absurd. But my answer has grown only firmer over time: Yes. We should definitely pay for emotional labor. And we should do so not only on ethical grounds but also because it is the best way to create adaptive, high-functioning workplaces.
Read MoreAccording to analysis of FBI data, of all female homicides accounted for in 2018 where the relationship between perpetrator and victim could be identified, 92% of cases involved women or girls killed by a man they knew, 63% of whom were killed by current husbands, ex-husbands or current boyfriends.
Read MoreWe remember children’s allergies, we design the shopping list, we know where the spare set of keys is. We multi-task. We know when we’re almost out of Q-tips, and plan on buying more. We are just better at remembering birthdays. We love catering to loved ones, and we make note of what they like to eat. We notice people’s health, and force friends and family to go see the doctor.
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